What is the family? I asked this question a long time ago and, of course, began to search the literature, which might find the answer to this question. And here's what I learned. "Family is a group of relatives living together (husband and wife, parents and children)," explains S. L. the dictionary Ozhegova. Family is not only connected by kinship and community of life, and mutual moral responsibility.
But families are different: complete and incomplete. Full family is a family consisting of one pair of spouses in a registered marriage and having children. The word "family" goes back to the root "CEM", which relates to the seed and procreation, i.e. the birth and upbringing of children, which is traditionally considered the main purpose of creating a family. Sometimes to refer to family or genealogy use the Latin word "surname," which in the Russian language primarily means "the common name for members of the family."
After reviewing all of the definitions to the word "family", I made some observations and offered my future family. Some of my friends say they don't want family in the future, because it's too big a responsibility, something to live for families - not for them. They want to be free, responsible only for himself, all wages to spend on myself only... But I don't understand these people. I believe that to live for their family members is much more interesting than wasted "burn" the life: still in old age, the loneliness will "push".
I would like to create a family with loving and respecting me as a person, and it is most important to me. No matter what it will work is this man, the main thing that was the family hearth. "The family hearth", in my understanding, is reciprocity, respect, help each other. I am a man of tradition, so the head of the family will husband: he will be the main breadwinner. But all the important questions we will solve together. In my opinion, the wife should work and contribute to the family budget.
I think there are two types of wives. The first type is a woman who makes her career work, but little has been family. Very often families where the family head is female, are childless. The husband does not have enough attention, start a fight with his wife and often these marriages end in divorce... And the woman remains alone and living for myself and making career. Or, sometimes the whole family: husband, wife, child (and possibly more than one), and the mother not enough time to raise their children. Children are raised by nannies, strangers, prying hands, teach them life told by another person. The child perceives his parents as "walking wallets" and becomes selfish, and selfishness is already inhuman. In the end, in the offspring of this woman's future may be not very good, all because of my upbringing.
The second type is a typical housewife. Sitting at home all the time, only comes out in the grocery store. Husband is always at work, because you need to earn to live. In mother's arms two, three kids that all the time you need to pay attention.
Yes, while children are young it's hard, but when they grow up, will help, will be much easier. But to live only for the sake of the children, not paying attention to yourself, your professional career... it's boring. It all quickly get bored.
Reasoning about the types of women in families, I conclude that it is necessary to find a "happy medium". That is, try to work and to raise their children, finding time for them and not entirely without a her husband.
Children are the most important part of a complete family. Of course, all my dreams of having two children – the boy and the girl may not come true. Guess who? No one! And anyway, I want two children in his family. It is desirable that the eldest was a boy (younger nurtured, protected), and the youngest child is a girl, so I braided her hair, its secrets passed. I think having two children is the ideal. I will try to justify their point of view. First, the territory of our country is large, and the population is small, because for many years the death rate exceeded the birth rate. The population of Russia is not reduced, we need every family to have at least two children. And secondly, in such a family will be more fun, warmer, will be a real family hearth.
The family is the primary cell of every society. They say that the destruction of any state begins with the destruction of the family. Therefore, the stronger the family, the stronger the country. Can to strengthen the family social benefits, assistance from state agencies. Our government tries to help the family: loans for housing, maternity capital, etc. But we must work hard to create strong families: patience, wisdom, love, forgiveness, care, attention, loyalty.
And then happiness will sparkle eyes close and dear people.