In most crisis situations we suffer not from the situation itself, but from the false obsessions on her. "As good as it is, no longer meet". "More you don't love". "You'll never have children." "Someone like you, it is impossible to love." "I don't get love" (this is usually in girls 15-18 years old), "there is no more reason to Live". These thoughts are almost physically hurt us, plunged into despair.
Relatively speaking, 10% of our suffering from the situation, from the inability to see a loved one, to be with him, and others, 90% of these false thoughts. So, once we overcome these thoughts, we will cease to suffer. And to overcome obsessive thoughts can be quite fast.
First of all, you need to be aware of these thoughts as foreign, hostile power, which with the aid of deception trying to plunge us into despair and nearly to death. These thoughts are not generated by you! They came from outside to hurt you. To accept the idea or reject — in our power. If we accept and begin to "chew", it becomes ours.