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Children usually seek role models to shape their own attitudes and behavior. As parents , it is very important to make sure that they have a sufficient number of positive role models .
There are plenty of negative role models around our children - and most adults can be negative , indifferent or mediocre. If we do not concentrate on actively positive role models , then these negative patterns can blunt the natural enthusiasm and optimism of the child.
The first thing to remember - is that the majority of children of parents as regards the main role models . And it's not only young children , but also teenagers. Therefore, we , as a parent , it is very important to us to become positive role models.
- Show your child that you are actively working on a positive attitude towards others ;
- Let your child see that you set and achieve their goals;
- Talk with your child about your own positive role models .
The only thing to avoid is that , with associated role models - be careful not to publicly blame, if your child is defined with the models to follow, even if you do not like . If your child imitates ugly pop star , your censure may only cause resistance. Instead, you should submit a reasoned point of view on something positive in relation to the "hero" , for example, that he had to be very loyal to his goals, to ensure that the position in which he is now . When you need to criticize someone , be specific, so that you can explain what you do not like the behavior of the person, rather than just hang on him all the bad things .
Here are some tips for parents :
- Help your child find a role model , which is a great example of an area in which your child has developed talent or which he is interested .
- Talk with your child on social issues , and then displays them on real people. It does not matter whether these people among your associates, or simply show on the news . Should be able to show your child what they did to achieve such results .
- Imagine your child to people you seem strong role models , and talk about the distinctive features of these people.
- With your child, find role models in history, as well as albums or a collage of those characters that are most attracted the attention of your child.
- When you see that your child exhibits behavior which he associates with a certain positive role model , of which you spoke , praising him for it !
- Encourage your child to dream , to represent yourself in the place of his hero. For example, if your child wants to become a great golfer , take him on green grass and let him imagine that he Tiger Woods .